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Oh the woes of a single woman in her thirties.  What is the best way to get out there and market yourself if you are available and ready for a man?  Bar hopping is definitely not the best time to meet a high quality dude.  But the biggest thing I think a woman needs to know before even making the decision to be open to a relationship,  you need to know what you are ready for.  I can’t say I have the best insight on how you get about that question, but here’s what I learned on my path to being ready.

1.        I thought I was ready waaay before I was.  I was lonely, missed a male counterpart and kept opening myself up to unavailable men.  This did NOT turn out good.  So, one big sign that helped me realize this is the fact I kept attracting the same person, only it got worse (the lesson) with each man.  Only then did I realize my pattern.  Hopefully you will get to realize this before I did.

2.       You attract what you put out.  Surprise!  Read paragraph one.

3.       What level do you think you are ready for?  Honestly, I hate to say the old tried and true way, but date often when you are ready. 

4.       Decide if you are looking for a bed partner, a good friend to do stuff with, or a true relationship. (have a FB- bed partner for a while, it’s a good thing for you, women need sex just as much as men).

Now, if you’ve made your determination, here are some next steps:

1.       If you want a bed partner, there’s plenty of men available for that.  That’s where you hit the bars.  That’s the right arena.

2.       If you are looking for a relationship, but still a little scared?  Online dating would be good.

3.       READY? You are going to have to make sure your happy with your life except for that ability to share with someone.  Harder done than said.  Then, you are carrying your very essence, and any person attracted to you will be attracted to who you are inside.  The whole you. Take what makes you happiest and see if there are social groups or ways you can possibly get out there and meet men. 

a.       Try to find a hobby that might have men in it, so shopping may not be a good hobby.

b.      Be Open, go to grocery stores after 8PM, electronics stores, apple computer stores, etc., where men are located.

c.       Make EYE contact with men

d.      Look your best

You need to know in your heart that you are ready, get opinions of your girlfriends, they can see your blind spots and will have the compassion and empathy to speak the truth…if you are willing to hear it.